Friends boyfriend on dating website
It was a quiet night in and, over a couple of glasses of wine, I flicked idly through Tinder to see if anyone caught my eye.
Suddenly, I saw him, pint glass in hand, looking handsome and relaxed.
Now let’s assume worst case scenario: She might be embarrassed, she might be defensive, she might accuse you of lying or being jealous, and worst of all, she will be hurt and you might feel at least partly to blame.
It sucks but that’s part of the friendship contract, you’re there for the good and the bad times.
Let's face it: Sometimes, you could use some (non-retail) therapy, and sitting on stranger's couch isn't on your list of to-dos. There’s no two ways about it: If you care about this person, it is your responsibility as a friend to share this information and let her handle it however she may.
Enter: Pretty Padded Room, a virtual platform that connects you to their arsenal of licensed therapists — all twelve of them! The only way I can recommend not telling her is if you’re closer friends with the boyfriend.
She is pregnant and had just flown abroad the same night I spotted him “active” at midnight. On one hand, I feel like she should know about his “extracurricular” activity.It seems like you think that having an account is an act of cheating. Tinder is pretty public, everyone knows what a screenshot is, and this would be risky, blatant behavior if this person wants to have an affair. This makes me think that this profile is probably a known, sanctioned entity to your friend. If this person is cheating your friend might want proof, but that doesn’t need to be your duty. Also gathering proof before you even know what’s happening implies that you find the behavior suspect and not chill and it’s probably chill. They are often cruel and exploitative, especially when people are just tryna find some love.(1) It’s for semi-shameful self-promotion.It’s for this reason that I think you should casually and quickly bring this up to your friend, because if it’s no big deal, it would be no big deal if you mentioned it in a chill no big deal way: “hahaha, just saw Jess on Tinder, are you guys creeping on me? You are in a lose-lose situation, because you are either saying your friend’s girlfriend is dateable or undateable, both of which are unacceptable opinions. People use dating accounts to promote their art, music, comedy shows, their crafts, their elaborate shelving system. It’s a little extra, but I try to respect a hustle.(3) It’s an account for a modern romance.If I have to tell him, how do I be a messenger that doesn’t get shot?Let me issue you a warm welcome to the burden of witnessing.